The Power of Pure Love: “You are Known, You are Needed, You are Loved”

Today, I speak from the heart. I’m not editing or re-reading or changing anything today, to make it perfect. I’m simply speaking what my soul whispers, and I hope it is received by those who need it most.

Yesterday, I was able to go to the temple in San Diego where I’m enjoying a few days away from it all. The temple is a place that always brings me peace, but yesterday it brought me something more. As I began the service I provide in that holy place, a woman volunteering there saw me coming toward her. “Good morning and welcome,” she said brightly, her eyes shining in delight. “I am so happy you have come here today.” Her words were common enough, at least for the temple which is always a place of welcoming, but the way in which she spoke the words was powerful. In those few phrases and in the one or two minutes we were together as she helped me on my way, I felt the power of her love for me. For me! Someone she’d never met and would likely never see again. Yet I felt it, and her love for me was so powerful, it brought me to tears.

A pic I took of the San Diego temple, yesterday. It is truly a remarkable building–beautiful.

 

I didn’t know I needed to feel that kind of love yesterday. I arrived happy, grateful, at peace, and feeling love for my family at home and for those I was seeing along my way. But this kind of love was different than the kind we profess to feel and “have” for one another. This is the love that transcends all–the pure love of Jesus Christ, as we call it in my faith–charity. Charity, though we’ve come to think of it as giving to the poor and serving the less fortunate, is so much more than these holy responsiblities. Charity is feeling God’s love for each of us, being filled to the brim, and then pouring that love out to all we see.

 

This woman yesterday was brimming over with this pure love, and as soon as she poured it onto me, I began to be filled as well and couldn’t help but then brim over with charity myself and seek to fill all others I came into contact with throughout my day. Even today, that pure love fills me, and as I sat to write a post today on some other topic, I couldn’t help but focus instead on sharing that love with all of you.

 

This week is the week of resurrection, of redemption, for all those of the Christian faith. This Sunday we celebrate the resurrection of Jesus Christ after he was put to death and we celebrate the potential of redemption and resurrection for each and every one of us. Not just the future redemption and resurrection of the body, beyond the grave, though that is a miracle and wonder and gift beyond words. But also the redemption of each of us each day, through this powerful love that Jesus Christ possessed completely and couldn’t help but share with all He came into contact with as he “went about doing good”–even charity.

 

Through this charity–this purest of all loves, which “seeks not itself” but seeks instead to bless all others–we can be redeemed.

 

Through this love we can…

  • Feel our true, divine potential, a reminder we are so much more than our thoughts, feelings, bodies, and behaviors. We are more than others say we are, and so much more than most of us believe. We are true daughters and sons of the Highest Being!
  • Remember what we once knew–that we are important and that we came to this earth, every single one of us, with an important work to do, a work only we can do.
  • Overcome the thoughts that drag us down and tell us we’re not good enough, because hear me when I say: “You are good enough! In fact, you’re a walking miracle! The world needs you! You are so very loved!”
  • Make our weaknesses into strengths. Our biggest challenges can become our greatest assets, and as we rely upon the Divine guidance to feel this Great Love, we will see not only that our weaknesses help us grow, but that they are the very thing we need to become something divine ourselves.
  • Increase our love for all others. As we seek this Love, and allow it to fill us, we can’t help but share this Love with all around us. We will possess greater patience and compassion for our children and spouses and friends and family. We will speak up and smile and offer a hand to all those around us we see in need. We will share the good things we think about others ever more freely, for we will see them as they truly are–their divine nature, their weaknesses that can become their strengths and their strengths that the world needs–and they will see the true us.

 

Pure Love is a cycle. It must be received even as it is given. With every drop of love we receive, we fill ourselves with love; and as we become full of love, the drops begin to fall onto others. The cycle keeps us all full–every one.

So, please, do not block this love. Don’t let the truths I wrote above slip in one ear and out the other. Don’t push them away or disbelieve them. Let them in. Give them some thought, and feel the love I have for you in these words, in this post, written from my love-filled heart.

 

One of the best things of my job a psychologist is the opportunity I have each day to practice seeing the very best in others, seeing their strengths and the potential for their weaknesses to be transformed into their greatness. I feel this love for my clients, and I feel this love for you.

 

It may seem hard to believe. You may be thinking, “She doesn’t even know me.” Well, I may not–yet. But I desire to know you. And trust me, you are known by One ever so much greater than I. You are important. We need you. “I am so happy you have come here today.” I truly am.

 

Feel the love that I, that your God, your Higher Power, has for you. Seek this Great Love. Seek to feel it and to believe it and to let yourself be filled. Let love in, then pour it over all you see and let the cycle begin, with you, today.

 

Please take a moment to share your thoughts and feelings with us by leaving a comment, below. I would love to hear what you have to say.

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Mastery Of Motherhood: Be Part of My Book, Radio & TV tour!

 

Announcing…Mastery Of Motherhood!

I can’t tell you how excited I am to finally be doing this–to finally be working on a book about the skills of motherhood with a focus on self-mastery/personal growth as the key. I have wanted to write a book on motherhood since graduate school, but it always seemed too daunting a task–who could possibly write a book about motherhood when it’s so vast, so important, so unexpected, so individual?

 

Now, over 15 years later, I’m ready to take on the challenge. Not because I am an “expert” at motherhood; far from it. More so, I want to write this book because I have learned so much as a mother and as a psychologist working with mothers for so many years.

 

I want to write this book because there aren’t any good books about the “how’s” of motherhood that offer ideas, principles, and true, research-based, helpful, practical tools for how to not only survive but to thrive in motherhood. I want to write because we need more support for one another as mothers, because I am passionate about helping all mothers succeed! I want to write this book because, as a mother, I know how important our role is, because I truly believe there’s no higher nor holier calling than being a mother, and because I also know we need help. We need guidance. We need support and love and wisdom to help us “grow through motherhood,” instead of just “going through” it (as I say on “Motherhood” Radio/TV).

 

Now is the time, and I couldn’t be more excited!

Helping some new friends learn to meditate at a book club event. We do have fun!

 

What’s even more exciting?

I’m heading out on the road, to connect with fabulous moms like you! 

I know I can’t write a book about motherhood without first talking with as many moms from as many places as possible. I want this book to be helpful, useful, and based on what moms actually need and not just some idea I have about what moms need.

 

Today I posted my 85th episode of “Motherhood” Radio/Tv! I’ve learned a tremendous amount about motherhood and moms of all ages and stages through these 85 episodes and the fabulous guests I’ve been fortunate enough to learn from along the way. Now, I’m taking Motherhood Radio/TV on the road as part of my Mastery of Motherhood book research tour, and YOU can be a part of it all! (Listen to the radio episode, 85, “Mastery of Motherhood” here.)

One of my absolute favorite things to do–travel, speak, and get to know incredible women like these!

 

Here’s how it will work:

1) Starting today, I am opening up my support@drchristinahibbert.com email address for speaking invitations. That’s right–I’m coming to you–free of charge! If you have a mom’s group, women’s group, church group, community group, or even want to pull together a group of friends and would like to invite me to come and speak to your group, then send me an email.

2) Email and tell me about your group, what your needs are, what you’re hoping I might do for you, and of course where you are and when you would like me to come.

3) I will then select at least 10 groups to visit over the next 9-12 months and will come to you FREE of charge, provide a fabulous, educational and/or motivational and/or inspirational talk/workshop for your group, and in return all I ask is that you allow me to talk with the group members and record some radio/TV excerpts (or perhaps a full episode) to use on “Motherhood.” Sound fun? It does to me!

Yes, I love to bring my guitar and play an original song, when I’m asked!


 
 

How will I select where I go?

I hope to accept as many group invitations as possible and will select where I go based first on the needs of the group and how persuasive the email is. If I get too many invitations to attend all, I may have to then select based on location (I’m hoping for a variety of places!), group size, and dates/timing.
 

I will do my best to make it to as many as possible; I love speaking with incredible groups of women and mothers. Still, I am a busy mom with many responsibilities, just like all of you, so we will work to make it work for us all.

From speaking at book signings & professional conferences to intimate groups in someone’s home–I love it all!


 
 

What are you waiting for?

Hop on your email today and tell me why I should come and visit your group. Be part of my new book, be featured on Motherhood radio/TV, learn and grow with me in person, and become a part of this incredible new “Mastery of Motherhood” movement with me!

 

I can’t wait to see you soon!

 

Meeting up with long-time friends (and making new friends) after speaking to a women’s group? Yes, please!

 
 

Questions?

Feel free to comment, below, or to email support@drchristinahibbert.com and I’ll do my best to answer promptly!

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“Choose to grow” with my bestselling, award-winning memoir, This is How We Grow!
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Overcoming Mom Shame: #StopMomShaming Solutions (Mom.Life Q & A)

 

If you’re a mom, you’ve experienced it–unwanted advice, criticism, or shaming about your parenting, choices, or lifestyle that leaves you feeling devastated. Why are we so hard on each other? And why are we so hard on ourselves?

 

Mom.Life Mom-Shaming Survey Results

Mom-shaming is unfortunately an everyday part of today’s world, and the consequences can be heavy.

Recently, the creators of the engaging and popular Mom.Life app conducted a survey of over 225 women on the topic of mom shaming, or unwanted criticism of their choices or appearance, to understand the far reaching effects. Here’s what they found:

  • Nearly 80% percent of the women surveyed report being shamed.
  • 53% say that shaming happens frequently or is rampant.
  • The leading focus of the shaming was feeding choice, followed by parenting style.
  • Other moms are most likely to be shamers (70%).
  • Dads were the least likely to shame moms.

Why are these numbers so high? And why are moms feeling the most shamed by other moms?

 

Understanding Mom-Shaming

You would think other moms would be the most compassionate, sympathetic, and understanding. After all, don’t we all “get” how difficult motherhood and parenting can be? Aren’t we all in the thick of hectic schedules, lack of sleep, and worry that we’re just not doing as well as every other mom?

The sad truth is mom-shaming is a rampant problem, and Mom.Life has taken up the charge to do something about it–a cause I heartily support.

I recently sat down with Mom.Life co-founders, Dee Anna McPherson and Charong Chow, to discuss solutions to #StopMomShaming (the title of their campaign), and also did a Q&A in the Mom.Life app (so fun!), both of which I’m happy to be sharing with you. Listen to or watch our entire conversation in this Motherhood Radio or Motherhood TV episode, and read my take on mom-shaming solutions, below.

 

Mom Shame Q & A with Mom.Life and Dr. Christina Hibbert

A short while ago, I was a featured expert for one of Mom.Life‘s incredible live events. These events are geared toward creating a safe, supportive environment in which moms can engage, live, with one another and discuss topics important and relevant to motherhood.

The topic for the event I was part of was #StopMomShaming, and there were excellent questions by app users and incredible feedback that created an enlightening conversation. Below are some of the most helpful questions and answers from this event. My hope is it will get you thinking about mom-shaming, and how you can be part of the solution, too. (Download the Mom.Life app now to follow me and join the #StopMomShaming movement, and leave a comment below to let us know your thoughts!)

 

Question 1 (Mom.Life):

What is your take on mom shaming? We recently surveyed our moms, and the results were astounding. About 80% of mom have been shamed, mostly for parenting choices? And most shamers were moms themselves. Could you shed some light into this dynamic?

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

It’s awful so many are still feeling shamed on a regular basis, but unfortunately it’s not surprising to me. It’s so easy for us to get stuck in “our way” and then to beleive it’s the “best” or “only” way. This leads to intentional or unintentional shaming about choices, when in reality, it’s CRUCIAL we each do this parenting thing our own way.

No one knows your specific situation. No one knows your specific children. And no one is the expert on your family’s needs but YOU. If we could hold our tongues, see the differences in our situations and what works, and just love one another, we’d all be so much happier and feel so much more loved and supported.

 

Question 2 (Mom.Life):

Love your response and insight! Mom shaming is so hurtful. Why do you think it affects us so much, especially our self-confidence?

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

It’s the worst to feel “attacked” at the heart of what matters most to you, and that’s exactly what mom shaming does. We are all just trying to figure this motherhood thing out, and as I said before, we each have our own unique situations. Since we’re all doing this without a map, we don’t KNOW 100% what we’re doing, right? Even if I have 6 kids, I still don’t know what I’m doing with every one of them, because they’re all so unique and what worked for one doesn’t work for others. This makes us vulnerable from the start. When someone criticizes in that vulnerable area, it hits extra hard. It makes us question, “Am I a terrible mother?” when really, the criticism says so much more about the person who gave it. It’s called “projection,” and the things we criticize others for are usually the things WE most need to work on. That’s why they bother us in the first place and we feel the need to criticize.

 

Question 3 (Mom.Life):

So, it’s not really about us, then? I love that. Here’s a question from a mom in the app: It seems like no matter who we are we get mom shamed, I am a young mom (20) and get mom shamed by my own mom…how do I shut this down?

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

Being shamed by our own parents/in-laws is the worst, and it’s unfortunately quite common. Often it’s unintentional and just your mother’s way of tell you how “she did it”. Other times, it’s on purpose. I think this comes from insecurity, as all shaming does. If we feel that sense of self-worth, we don’t need to shame others.

Perhaps your mother just doesn’t “get” what you’re trying to do as a mom. Perhaps she is jealous of how you are as a mom. Whatever the reason, you don’t have to just sit and take it. Boundaries are a wonderful tool for this. Boundaries are rules you set up to protect yourself and your family. It’s like a fence you construct and you decide if it’s a picket fence or a tall brick wall. You decide what is and is not okay for you as a mom with others, and then you talk with them about what you’ve decided, and if they’re ok with it, then great. If not, you’ll need to be tough and keep your boundaries nonetheless. You can still love someone and have strong boundaries. In fact, it’s healthy.

Question 4 (Mom.Life):

Any tips on not allowing mom shaming to bother you to begin with?

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

I think it all comes down to a strong sense of self-worth, and I’ve learned that we moms struggle with this the very most. I believe there’s a difference between self-esteem (or what we think, feel, how we behave, look, and what others think about us–the “outward” things) and self-worth (who we truly are–the inner truth). I’ve developed a “pyramid of self-worth” to help people work on building this sense of self-worth, to FEEL that self-love and KNOW they’re truly valuable and worthy.

Almost all the issues I see clients for, at their core, have to deal with self-worth, and I started to see this pattern of women especially who’d say, “I know YOU say I’m worthy, and I can tell myself that, but I don’t FEEL it.” It made me wonder, “how to you help someone feel self-worth?” That’s when I developed the pyramid of self-worth, which is made up of 1) self-awareness, 2) self-acceptance, and 3) self-love practices. I write about this in both my books “Who am I without You” and “8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise,” as well as on my YouTube channel!

 

Question 5 (Mom.Life):

Here’s a great question from the community: How do you make sure you’re sharing the love when you bring another baby home? How do you make sure you’re there for your partner and also for your other children?

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

I used to worry so much about this when I was pregnant with my second! I’d wonder, “How could I ever love another baby like I love my first?” But you do. And it’s amazing how your love just grows and amplifies with other children and meaningful family relationships–as a mom of 6 I can say this for sure!

What IS truly challenging is making time so everyone feels they’re getting “enough” of you. It’s important to also get some of yourself, too, so I suggest writing down your priorities–what matters most, in order of most important to least. Then, write down how much time you’re willing to give to each thing each week (including work, relationships, the house cleaning, etc). Focus on getting your top three done everyday, and you will never feel like you’re lacking. The house can be messy, especially if it means you played with your toddler and spent time with your spouse. Let go of what’s not as important in favor of what IS.

I love the saying, “Saying no to something is really saying ‘Yes’ to something better.” Write this on your wall if you need to, but remember that a little of your time and attention, especially if it’s full of love, goes a long, long way. One other suggestion for bringing another baby home: Give the older child a “gift” from the new baby. It’s a great way for big bro/sis to start feeling like and love for their new sibling!

Singing & rocking my youngest, Sydney. Though I was able to breastfeed her, I introduced a bottle early on. I knew I needed it to help me survive PPD.

Question 6 (Mom.Life):

One mom writes: I can’t help but to keep blaming myself for my weight gain. It is my fault and I feel worse because I didn’t “bounce back” like everyone else. Any advice on how I can gain my confidence back and stop blaming myself so much?

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

Self-blame is a tough cycle to live in. It’s so easy to look at others and compare and think, “They are so much better than I am. I stink!” when really we don’t know their struggles, and they’re probably doing the same thing with us about something else. We compare our worst to others’ best, and that’s a vicious cycle. Our sense of self-worth is so tied up in this. If you don’t love yourself or if you can’t practice compassion with yourself–with who you are, your strengths, weakness, the “good, bad, ugly, and exceptional”– of course, you will blame yourself for every perceived “failure.”

The key is to work on building that sense of self-worth, as I mentioned above. Then, you will feel stronger and able to say, “I don’t like that I haven’t lost this weight, but I accept this is where I am right now.” Then, you have the option to change where you are, to improve. And you’ll be coming at it in such a healthier way. As far as weight loss, my newest book, “8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise,” there’s a whole chapter on Self-worth, and I don’t even discuss setting up a fitness program until Key 7! That’s because, if we really want to set and achieve goals–like the goal to exercise or be healthy–we first need a LOT of mental preparation. We need to change how we view “success” and “failure,” we need to build our self-worth so we’ll stick with it, and we need to learn how to stay motivated. Working on these things is a great start to eventually loving all of who you are and achieving your dreams! (Join my “Exercise to Mental Health” course here!)

 

Question 7 (Mom.Life):

Here’s another good question from a mom: How can I feel less lonely as a new mom? How do I make sure I am my own person and not be known as JJ’s mommy? Is it selfish sometimes to be my own person? I don’t want to only be my son’s mommy.

Answer (Dr. Hibbert):

What a great question! First, let me say this clearly: IT IS NOT SELFISH FOR YOU TO BE YOUR OWN PERSON. I see so many mothers who are empty nesters and can’t even answer what they like to do because they’ve given ALL their time and energy to their children and lost themselves along the way. Our goal as mothers is to raise children who become healthy, productive, independent adults, so we do ourselves AND them no good by not remembering who WE are. In fact, I have seen in my own life and so many others’ the power of being YOU as a mom. As we develop our own talents and gifts and share them with others, we SHOW our children how to do the same. We give them permission to “go for it!” because we’ve done so, too. I took my 11 year old daughter with me to an event where I was speaking and doing a book signing, for parents who had all lost a child. She watched me speak and helped with the book signing and at the end of the day she said, “Wow, mom. You are important. You help so many people. I’m so proud of you!” This has helped her want to do the same. We can’t be selfish if we don’t have a SELF. And trust me, as mothers, we give our children so much more when we let that self shine boldly through!

 

 

Have you ever been shamed? By whom, and about what? Do you feel mom-shaming is a problem? Why or why not? What are the solutions to #StopMomShaming?

Join the conversation below by leaving a comment!

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My new book, available on Amazon.com!

 “8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise“ is here!

“…Enlightening and empowering…” ~Publisher’s Weekly

Order online at Norton.com, AmazonBarnes & Noble, Target.com, or Walmart.com, or visit your local bookseller today!

 

 

 

#1 Amazon Bestseller, This Is How We Grow, by Dr. Christina Hibbert, Available now on Amazon.com! www.ThisIsHowWeGrow.com
“Choose to grow” with my bestselling, award-winning memoir, This is How We Grow!
Available at Amazon or Barnes & Noble!

 

 

 

 

"Who Am I Without You?" 52 Ways to Rebuild Self-Esteem After a Breakup; www.DrChristinaHibbert.com #book #selfesteem #breakup #divorce

Build true self-worth, confidence, and love with “Who Am I Without You.”
Available now at
TargetAmazonBarnes & NobleNew Harbinger, or your local bookseller!

Join my “This is How We Grow” 30-Day Personal Growth Plan! 

 

"This is How We Grow" FREE 30-Day Personal Growth Plan! www.DrChristinaHibbert.com #personalgrowth #goals

 

 

 

Register, just below, for INSTANT ACCESS to my FREE, 4-part series on “Essential Oils for Emotional Health, Hormones, Family Sleep, & Pregnancy, Postpartum & Motherhood!” And subscribe to my “Motherhood Essentials” newsletter for tips, recipes, and how-to’s on using essential oils for your family’s health and wellness!

 

 

 

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New Year’s ReSOLUTIONS!

 

 

So, did you do it? Did you set New Year’s resolution s? Did you come up with a new vision, goals, or even a yearly theme like I do?

 

If so, I have an important question for you: What is going to make you stick with and achieve those resolutions this year?

 

 

New Year, New Potential

The beginning of a new year is a time of potential. It’s a time of change, growth, transformation—or at least, it has the power to be.

We set goals, make resolutions, or develop a yearly theme to guide our efforts, but do we truly change, grow, transform? Or do we simply set sail only to take a pleasure cruise around the harbor and come right back to port?

We all know the drill. Most of us make a list around New Year’s including things we want to change, to overcome, to quit, to develop, to become! Some of us might have a list pages long of ideas and dreams and goals. Others might have one main focus for the year. It is SO fabulous that we use this time of year to turn our thoughts to self-improvement and personal transformation!

BUT…(and you know what’s coming)… the sad truth is most of us will not actually achieve the things we set out to do. In fact, it’s estimated that only 8% of those who make New Year’s resolutions actually keep them. 8%! That’s the problem with this time of year—most of us don’t fully tap into that potential. Most of us set resolutions only to start slacking a few weeks later, to give up and ultimately feel like we’ve “failed.”

Why? Why is it so challenging to make lasting change? And what are the solutions for overcoming this?

 

Why is Personal Transformation So Hard?

To answer the first question, watch the video below. I created this as a New Year’s gift for my newsletter subscribers (subscribe above, right or below), and in it I reveal the 5 main blocks to change, growth, personal transformation. So, click and watch for answers! (It’s the first of a 3-part series and you can find them all on my YouTube channel!)

 

How can we actually Keep our Resolutions this Year?

What can we do to achieve personal growth and transformation in 2017? If you watched the video above you’ll understand why I believe we need the following 4 things if we want new year’s resolution success this, and every, year:

1) We need to be taught/shown how. We need specific ideas relevant to what we’re trying to achieve, and if someone can actually show us how to make the changes we desire, all the better!

2) We need goals that are tailored to our situation and needs. We need to do things our way, in a way that fits with our life circumstances and situation. We can’t just do it someone else’s way: we need our own way if we’re to succeed. In fact, research shows that of those who set specific goals, instead of making resolutions, up to 90% achieve them!

3) We need support. And the right kind of support. We need people to encourage, teach, and help us along our way. We cannot do it alone.

4) We need to learn the skills of mental fortitude to stick with it. This is where most of us really fail. We were never taught the mental skills we need to get and stay motivated, create realistic and achievable goals, overcome the inevitable roadblocks, and empower our thoughts and beliefs to find success!

4 New Year’s ReSOLUTIONS!

That’s what I want to help you do–develop these skills of mental fortitude so you can truly make this your year for mental, emotional, social, spiritual, and physical transformation! Over the years, I’ve created many programs, articles, and resources to help you do just this, and below are my faves. I hope you’ll pick one, or more, and get started today!

 

1) NEW! Exercise to Mental Health Personal Transformation Program! 

I’m thrilled to announce my BRAND NEW program, Exercise to Mental Health! In this 6-week online course I developed based on my latest book, 8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise, I’m taking the research-based principles of mental fortitude presented in my book and bringing them to life.

This 6 session video course all about the “how” of achieving your personal transformation goals. Not only is this a way for you to work with me to build mental fortitude, but it will also teach you how to overcome the roadblocks to success that you’ll inevitably face.

I won’t go into the details here, because I have a brand new website to tell you all about it (http://www.ExerciseToMentalHealth.com). Click that link and check it out, because this is the BEST solution I’ve found to empower you to: 1) develop the skills of mental fortitude you need to stick with and achieve your goals, 2) understand how to make the lasting change you desire, 3) tailor your plan to your unique life and experiences, and of course, 4) do all this while receiving support from new friends and from me! Don’t wait!

 

2) Join me for the Zion Ponderosa Women’s Adventure Retreat & experience “The Adventure of a Lifetime–discovering yourself!”

Yes, this is happening, and I couldn’t be more excited! This is one of the most fun, rewarding, awe-inspiring adventures I’ve ever been on, and now, I’m bringing it to my friends and followers as an exclusive retreat with me to rediscover yourself, build self-worth, and leave with the skills you need to go for your dreams! And all for an incredible discounted rate! 

Space is limited, and registration has just opened, so don’t hesitate! For more info, visit this post all about it, and follow the instructions for specific details and/or to register

3) This is How We Grow Personal Growth Group

One of my first resources to encourage and show people how to “grow through life,” this online video-based group has been wildly popular! Many have even formed their own, in-person groups, supporting friends and neighbors along the way.

And guess what? I’m back for season 3! Yes, coming later this month, I’ll be starting lessons for season 3 of our group, with a whole new theme, a monthly video lesson, and of course, continuing support in our Facebook group.

If you haven’t already joined, it’s FREE and easy. Just click here for details and to register and you’ll receive all the new lessons, as well as links to our past lessons. Oh how I love growing with you!

3) This is How We Grow 30-Day Personal Growth Plan

Based on my bestselling book, This is How We Grow, my FREE 30-day plan is a great kick start! For 30 days, you’ll receive a daily email with a short inspirational “lesson” and activity to promote your personal growth. A great way to get started on your path to personal growth!

4) Join one of my Facebook Groups!

If you’re lacking support, I have a variety of Facebook groups geared toward just that–helping you know you’re not alone, connecting with others going through similar things, and getting inspired, together. Click on one that interests you and join us!

Growing Through Motherhood

“This is How We Grow” Personal Growth Group

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Growing through PPD: Postpartum Depression/Anxiety Support

Women’s Emotions: Overcoming, becoming, flourishing!

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Growing Through Grief, Loss, Trauma

 

Most of all…

The most important thing you can do if you’re struggling to reach your goals is to reach out for help in some way. Check out one of the posts, below, to help you set specific goals and learn skills of personal growth. And don’t quit until you discover the skills, plan, strategies, and support you need to make this your best year yet!

 

 

Bonus: Suggestion 5–Read one of my books! Great for getting you on your way to personal transformation!

My new book, available on Amazon.com!

 “8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise“ is here!

“…Enlightening and empowering…” ~Publisher’s Weekly

Order online at Norton.com, AmazonBarnes & Noble, Target.com, or Walmart.com, or visit your local bookseller today!

 

 

 

Join my NEW “Exercise to Mental Health” course and make this your year of transformation!

Click below or visit ExerciseToMentalHealth.com.

 

 

 

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The Food-Mood Connection: Nutrition, Exercise, Energy & Happiness

 

Part 3 of my BONUS Chapter from 8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise continues today, and we’re talking about something we all love—food! Nutrition works with exercise, sleep, and the other keys to create a healthy lifestyle, mental health, wellness, and yes, happiness. Let’s take a look at the “food-mood connection” and what you can do to make it work for you!

“Everyone has their own definition of a healthy lifestyle, and mine has come to mean making health a priority but not an obsession.”
~Daphne Oz

 

It’s been said that eating healthy and being physically active are the two most important things you can do for your overall health and wellbeing at any age (Missouri Dept. of Health & Senior Services, 2015). If we’re not eating well, we won’t have energy to handle life or to exercise, our physical health will suffer, and so will our mental health. While many people focus on healthier nutrition as a means to lose weight (and while this is certainly a benefit of healthy eating), there are many more benefits to be gained from proper nutrition, both physically and mentally.

 

Good nutrition is linked with a reduced risk of heart disease, diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, and some cancers, and it also promotes weight loss and overall wellbeing. Nutrition can also improve mood and mental health, especially when combined with exercise (ODPHP, 2015).

 
 

The food-mood connection
 
Eating patterns are clearly linked with mental health, especially depression. Research shows that diets consisting of vegetables, fruit, meat, fish, and whole grains are associated with lower likelihood of anxiety and depressive disorders, while diets high in fried, processed, sugary foods, refined grains, and beer are linked with higher mood-related symptoms (Jacka et al., 2010). This food-mood relationship seems to go both ways: when we eat unhealthy foods, we feel worse, and when we feel badly, we tend to eat unhealthier foods, and more of them.
 
One study from Spain, with over 10,000 participants over a 4-year period, showed that diets high in fish and nuts were linked with lower rates of depression, while diets higher in meats and whole-fat dairy products were associated with higher depression rates (Sanchez-Villegas et al., 2009). Another large-scale study from England, lasting over five years, confirmed this link between depressed mood and diet. High consumption of processed foods, refined grains, high-fat dairy products, sweets, and condiments was linked to higher depression scores, while a Mediterranean-type diet was linked with lower depression scores (Akbarly et al., 2009).
Conversely, sad or depressed mood is highly correlated with overeating (Jansen et al, 2008; Dingemans et al, 2009).

 

Nutrition and Exercise
 
Exercise can decrease sadness and depression, making it less likely one will overeat. Choosing to go for a walk or swim when hard days or bad moods hit helps in two ways: 1) it boosts your mood and lowers stress, and 2) it gets you doing something healthy and not overeating. Of course, nutrition and physical activity go hand in hand when it comes to living healthy, and both work to keep us in good physical shape (ODPHP, 2015).
 

Since I prioritize exercise, my kids have learned to, too! (In my “exercise room” in “the dungeon,” early in the morning.)

Together, they also help manage and improve health conditions and prevent obesity. It’s estimated that approximately one in three adults (34%) and one in six children/teens (16.2%) in the U.S. are obese, and the epidemic has been growing (ODPHP, 2015). Obesity is related to a host of illnesses that can lead to death, so it is imperative that we each honestly examine our diet to see if we are doing our best when it comes to nutrition and exercise.
 
The benefits of proper nutrition cannot be understated, yet less than one in three adults, and even less adolescents, eat the recommended amount of vegetables each day (CDCP, 2009). Additionally, as we know, most adults (81.6%) and adolescents (81.8%) fail to get the recommended amount of daily exercise (USDHHS, 2008), meaning that too few of us are taking advantage of these two life-promoting health habits.

 

 

Tips for Improved Nutrition
 
The U.S. Department of Agriculture has created MyPlate (replacing the former Food Guide Pyramid), a simple way to understand what kinds of food promote good health and nutrition and how much of each food group we should eat each day.
 
MyPlate suggests that we eat 10% fruits, 40%vegetables, or half a plate full of fruits and vegetables at each meal. The other half of the plate should be filled with whole grains (30%) and healthy protein (20%). Add in a cupful of dairy, such as milk or yogurt, and you’ve got a balanced meal. Additionally, MyPlate recommends that at least half the grains we eat come from whole grain sources, that we vary protein choices (fish, poultry, lean meat, and nuts), and that we stay mindful of portion control, sodium, and sugar levels (USDA, 2015).

 

Additional ways to eat healthier include:
 
• Focus on what to eat instead of what not to eat. Most people focus on avoiding certain foods, and while this can help, it’s definitely not as helpful as focusing on what to eat. Focus on consuming as many health-promoting foods as possible, especially vitamin-rich fruits and vegetables, and try to eat them as early in the day as possible. You’ll be more likely to get all the good stuff in and have less room for unhealthy foods.
 

• Eat the rainbow: Color and variety are key. Seek whole foods that are vibrant in color and eat as many as you can (i.e. blueberries, sweet potatoes, broccoli, etc.)
 
• Eat breakfast. Skipping breakfast is associated with greater smoking, alcohol use, and a sedentary lifestyle, often meaning higher weight, in both adults and adolescents. Those who skip breakfast are also less likely to exercise, and parents who skip breakfast are more likely to have kids that do the same, so parents, be the example (Keski-Rahkonen et al., 2003).
 
• Eat 5 smaller meals a day, and have healthy snacks. Starting the day with breakfast and then eating every three to four hours will help you feel more full and be less likely to overeat, too (Paturel, 2014). Eating regular high fiber, carbohydrate, and protein snacks will keep you full without adding extra weight (Paturel, 2014).
 
• Get your vitamins from food, and add in supplements as needed. Eating foods that are rich antioxidants like Vitamins C and E has been shown to reduce risk of Alzheimer’s Disease (Engleheart et al., 2002). Antioxidants are found in fruits, especially blue and blackberries, vegetables, beans, whole-grain products, nuts, seeds, and even dark chocolate (Mayo Clinic, 2015). Omega-3 fatty acids are also important to overall health and mental health. Studies show omega-3’s (found in salmon, tuna, walnuts, and, canola, flax, and soybean oils) are better than a placebo in treating depression in children and adults, as well as in treating bipolar disorder and postpartum depression (Grosso et al., 2014; Osher & Belmaker, 2009) (Freeman et al., 2005) (dosing—3mg-6g). Vitamin D is another nutrient crucial to mental and physical health. It not only helps with crucial calcium absorption; it helps activate genes that control the immune system and release important neurotransmitters, like serotonin and dopamine, which make us feel mentally well, and Vitamin D deficiency is highly linked with depression and seasonal affective disorder (Greenblatt, J.M., 2011; Veith et al., 2004). If you’re unable to get these nutrients from your diet, consider asking your doctor about a high quality supplement. Adding in a multivitamin, an Omega-3 supplement, essential oils for cleansing, immune-boosting, and mood enhancing purposes, and even incorporating a “green drink” shake each day is a great way to get all your important nutrients in and keep your physical and mental health strong. (Learn more about my favorite multivitamin, omega-3 and “green drink” supplements, here.)
 
Water is crucial, and avoid sugary drinks. The average-sized adult should drink at least 64 ounces of water each day, and avoid juice, sodas, and too much caffeine. These are not only unhealthy for your body; they also can intensify symptoms of anxiety and affect sleep.


Quality sleep is associated with better nutrition. When you’re too tired you’re more likely to eat poorly and less likely to sleep well (National Sleep Foundation, 2009). (Learn “How to Sleep Better” in part 2 of this chapter excerpt!)

 
• Keep a food diary.
I remember having to do this for a nutrition class in college, and what an eye-opener! If you aren’t sure how well you’re doing with your nutrition, write it all down for a day or two. It won’t take long to see exactly where you can improve.
 
• Of course, staying active is also important for healthy eating and diet. Exercise and nutrition, when used correctly, are an energy-creating machine. (Learn more about Exercise Motivation & Dedication here and in my latest book!)

 

One Saturday, after my kids had helped me get a little time alone, I took them for a family bike ride. I win. They win. We all win.

 

“Balance” & a Healthy Lifestyle—it’s all about choices
 
Overall, a healthy lifestyle is really about finding balance in what we do with our body and mind. The trouble is, finding balance is tough. Balance is a feeling, and it can be challenge to feel balanced by directly seeking to feel it.
 
Instead, health—physical and mental—is about choices. Each day, we can choose health. We can choose to focus on those behaviors that lead us toward greater health, or on those that lead us away. We can make small choices that improve our lifestyle and that make a positive impact on our mental health over time. We can choose behaviors that promote exercise (like joining my new “8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise” course-subscribe for more info, below!), and we can use exercise to help us feel healthier and engage in healthier lifestyle choices. That is how we achieve a balanced lifestyle. It truly is all about choice.
 
It can feel like a lot to tackle, but the idea isn’t to do all of these things right now. Choose one and start there. Then, add another. And remember that change takes time. I’ve heard it said that it takes sixty to ninety days to create a new habit. Give yourself the time you need to implement a healthier lifestlyle, piece by piece. Your body, and mind, will thank you for it.

 

Reflect for Success

1) How are your lifestyle choices influencing your life? Examine each lifestyle choice, below and ask yourself, “What are my strengths in this area?” and then, “What might I need to improve?” List the things you discover. Then, select one small change you can start making today. When you’ve accomplished that change, move on to another.
Sleep: ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
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Nutrition:
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Family/Relationships:
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Work:
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Play & Downtime:
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Stillness & Spiritual Connection:
_________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

 

 

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#LightTheWorld: 25 Days of Christmas Service, 25 Opportunities to Heal, Love, Grow

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It’s Christmas time again, and that means decorations, lights, gifts, parties, and for most of us, stress. But is this what Christmas is really about? How often do we fail to remember the true meaning of Christmas–the loving–simply because we’re caught up in the doing?

Starting today, December 1st, join me and millions of others as we “Light the World” with 25 days and ways of Christlike service. Each day in December, select one way to love others–to do as Jesus Christ has always done and listen, share, be there, hug, heal, inspire, uplift, love. It doesn’t have to be a huge event; it doesn’t even need to add to your already busy schedule. All it takes is an open heart and eyes to see the needs around you. Then, a willingness to reach out in love.

 

Watch this 2-minute video to for inspiration and to learn more…

 

The Power of Service = The Power of Love

If there’s one thing I have learned through all of my personal trials and setbacks, stresses and burdens, it’s that serving others is one of the very best ways to heal ourselves and to grow. As we offer love, we can’t help but feel it in return; and we could all use a little more love in today’s world.

The Power to Heal

Whether you’re facing grief, loss, heartache, depression, anxiety, parenting stress, marital strain, relationship issues, health

My family with my friend's family, sending balloons to Jody in heaven to remember her one year death anniversary. We need each other.

My family with my friend’s family, sending balloons to Jody in heaven to remember her one year death anniversary. We need each other.

concerns, etc., as you turn your mind to how you can love someone else, you will find your pain, sorrow, despair, burden lift and lighten. This is the gift of service and the gift of love–it heals, not only those we serve, but even more so, it heals us.

The Power to Grow

Love also grows us. It is through loving that we begin to comprehend our true worth, to see our strengths and abilities, and then we can choose to amplify them in the world.

One thing I know for sure is that each of us has a divine purpose and mission in life and this purpose is always about loving, in some form. Perhaps we love through teaching, or perhaps through learning; we may love through listening or through speaking; we may love by laboring with our hands or laboring with our minds and hearts.

Whatever we do, we do it because of love, and as we tap into that love and use it to serve those around us–our friends and family, yes, but also those we don’t yet know at all, we grow.

 

Light the World! In 25 Ways, over 25 Days

Will you join me? 25 days and 25 ways to serve and love others. In return, you’ll receive 25 days and at least 25 ways to experience love, healing and growth. Isn’t it worth your time and energy? I believe it absolutely is.

You can get started by visiting this post, with a free advent calendar you can download and post in your home. For each day in December, this calendar first lists how Jesus helped others and then offers suggestions for how you may do the same. It is a simple way to focus more on Christ this Christmas and to serve all month long and become more like Him.

Get your kids involved. Make it a family effort. Each person can select one item off the calendar each day for their service. And you’ll notice these aren’t difficult things to do: “point out a virtue in someone they don’t see in themselves,” “ask your children what they think you should pray about as a family,” “watch an online tutorial to learn a new skill that can benefit others.”

Watch this 30-second video to get started…

 

 

50 Ways to Offer Christlike Love & Service this Christmas & Holiday Season!

You may also opt to create your own “calendar” of service. Here are 50 suggestions to get you inspired!

  1. Use your mobile device or computer calendar and set a reminder for each day–to look for someone in need and serve them.
  2. Make an effort to smile at everyone you meet, even if you are having a bad day.
  3. Reply to an email from someone in need. I have several I’ve received through my website from those who are grieving and haven’t gotten to yet. My goal for today is to spend 30 minutes replying, to offer support, encouragement, and love.
  4. Listen to your child as s/he tells you about his/her day. Show them how much they matter.canstockphoto7236288
  5. Hug a friend when you see them, just because.
  6. Gather unused clothing items and donate them to a charity, shelter, or family in need.
  7. Call a friend or family member you haven’t spoken to in a while. Tell them how much you miss them.
  8. Read to children, at home or as a volunteer in a library, hospital, or school.
  9. Create something beautiful and give it away.
  10. Write a note to someone you love. Tell them how much they mean to you.
  11. Pay for the person behind you’s groceries or food in the drive-through.
  12. Help someone shovel snow or rake leaves/pine needles.
  13. As a family, gather gently used toys and household items and donate them to a shelter.
  14. Make a treat for someone who’s having a rough day and drop them by with a note that says, “Thinking of you.”
  15. Focus on how you serve your family. Notice the tasks, large and small that you’re already doing for them and infuse each one with just a little more love.
  16. Forgive someone.
  17. Write a letter of gratitude to someone who’s made a difference in your life. Show up on their doorstep and read it to them. Dr. Martin Seligman has found this one activity significantly increases happiness in both the giver and the receiver.
  18. Read a book that teaches you about loving, serving, or helping others. A parenting book, self-help book, or a book on a virtue you’re hoping to develop and share.
  19. Visit a Facebook support group or other online support group you’re a part of and offer virtual love and support to someone in need.
  20. If you see someone who looks down while you’re out, smile, ask how they’re doing, and offer a word of encouragement. I
    Loving my baby, but exhausted. This is reality.

    Loving my baby, but exhausted. This is reality.

    always do this with new moms. Simply telling them, “It’s so hard, but it’s so worth it,” or “You’re doing a great job!” to a mom who’s struggling with a baby or young children in a store can make a huge difference.

  21. Look up ways you can help refugees in your area. Lifting Hands International is an incredible organization started by a friend of mine that offers many ways you can get involved. (Listen to my interview about this on “Motherhood,” here.) You can also visit this wishlist on Amazon and purchase items to help refugees.
  22. Teach your children a story from the life of Jesus Christ. Help them understand how to offer Christlike love to others.
  23. Pray as a family to know who needs your help each day.
  24. Watch others when you’re out doing your work or errands. Notice their struggles and offer a hand. Hold a door open, unload groceries for someone, pick up something they drop. Anything to show you see them and care.
  25. Share a message of hope, love, and encouragement on social media.
  26. Look for opportunities to donate to worthy causes and do so according to your family’s means.
  27. As a family, gather items that might be useful for a homeless person, like toothbrush/paste, warm socks/gloves, water, snacks, etc. Put together bags of these items and carry them in your car. When you see someone in need, offer them a care bag.
  28. For 24 hours, refrain from criticising anyone or anything. If you mess up, start over. Give the gift of a positive attitude to yourself and all around you! (P.S. It’s harder than you might think!)
  29. Learn more about a cause that stands out to you. Search for ways you can get involved.
  30. Volunteer for a warmline or hotline. Postpartum Support International is always looking for warmline volunteers, and here in AZ, our Postpartum Support Chapter is as well. (Email me (above right) if you’re interested and I’ll get you hooked up with the right people.)
  31. Sing to a child, to calm them or inspire them.
  32. If you play a musical instrument, volunteer to play at a retirement, assisted-living, or hospice home, or to play for someone who is elderly or ill. My son did this for a friend who is very sick with cancer the other week, and it was a joy for our entire family to see how happy it made her.
  33. Ask a meaningful question on Facebook or Instagram and then offer support. Something like, “What are your biggest struggles today?” or “How are you doing, in 3 words or less?” can open the door to seeing others’ needs and offering your love.
  34. Skype or Facetime with someone you haven’t seen in a while. Or, let your kids do so. My youngest’s best friend moved away a couple years ago, but we help them have “playdates” on Facetime often, to keep their friendship alive!
  35. Write a poem and send it to someone you love, admire, or just want to show you care.
  36. Turn off your phone and spend some time meditating today. Here’s a video to show you how. Focus on how grateful you are for all you’ve been given. Think of Jesus and how he lived. Commit to remember Him more often and strive to be more like Him.
  37. Start thinking about a quality, virtue, or trait you’d like to develop. Make a commitment to work on it for an entire year,
    Going to my daughter's end-of-year presentation, pushed by my son, Tre, in a wheelchair. Even though it felt embarrassing, I asked for help and let it in. Yay, me!

    Going to my daughter’s end-of-year presentation, pushed by my son, Tre, in a wheelchair. Even though it felt embarrassing, I asked for help and let it in. Yay, me!

    starting this January. I do this every year and call it my Yearly Theme. It’s helped me develop and improve myself and become who I truly desire to be.

  38. Help someone who’s in a wheelchair, on crutches, or has a hard time standing or walking to walk.
  39. Call your mom or dad every week this month and tell them you love them.
  40. Make a video that teaches something valuable, to help those in need. Post it to YouTube and share on social media. I love doing this and have many such videos, all of them free, on my YouTube channel.
  41. When hugging your child, spouse, partner, or loved one, hold on extra long. Be the last to let go.
  42. Say, “I love you,” to at least 1 person every single day. The more often, the better!
  43. Adopt a family for Christmas. Get their wishlist and purchase gifts, wrap them, and deliver them as a family. We have done this so many years, and it’s our very favorite part of the holidays every time!
  44. Start a “Christmas Jar.” We do this every year, and it’s our best tradition. Set out a jar. Every family member puts their loose change, extra cash, and any other money they’d like to donate, into the jar. On Christmas Eve, wrap up the jar. Drive around until you find someone who looks down on their luck. We say a prayer before we go, to help us find the right person, and every single year, we know we’ve found the one who needed it most. Have the kids, or you, hop out of the car and hand them the Christmas Jar, saying, “Merry Christmas!” You can make such a difference doing this one activity.
  45. Think of someone you’ve had a hard time loving. Pray for ways to break through. Offer one loving gesture to them.
  46. Set up a family service swap! We love doing this one, too. During December, each of our family members must do one service for every other family member. It could be doing their chores for a night, hanging out with them for a special movie night, or letting them borrow something they’ve been wanting to use (for my teens, this is a biggie!). What a great way to inspire Christlike service in our own homes.
  47. Go caroling with family and friends. Visit the lonely, afflicted, and downtrodden and brighten their day.
  48. Let someone cry on your shoulder. Don’t try to fix things. Just say, “I’m so sorry” and “I am here.”
  49. When you see something good in someone else, tell them. Everybody loves a compliment.
  50. Commit to daily prayer, to express your gratitude and inspire you in the best ways to serve and love others.

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What are you waiting for?

Now, get out there and do something. Anything. Start with a desire to try and a hopeful attitude, and even that is a great service you can begin giving today.

 

 

 

 

 

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How to Sleep Better- Exercise, Mental Health & Tools to Cure Insomnia (Bonus Chapter from New Book!)

how-to-sleep-better-www-drchristinahibbert-comWe live in a sleep-deprived culture. Too many people fail to grasp the absolute necessity of adequate sleep; and chronic insomnia can impact our health drastically. Insomnia is associated with high blood pressure, fatigue, weight struggles, and memory loss. It’s also associated with higher rates of anxiety, depression, stress, worry, poorer thinking, decision-making, and judgment, and overall, poorer coping (Heffron, 2014).

Sleep is as crucial to mental health as it is to physical health; maybe even more so. It serves to restore the mind, gives us energy to handle life’s situations, and helps us manage our emotions. Healthy sleep is associated with greater energy, learning, performance, and better overall health (Sleep Institute, 2009). As I often say, “Sleep better, cope better.”

I have long struggled with sleep and know firsthand the connection it has to mental wellbeing. Because of this, I’ve studied and treated sleep disturbances in my practice for many years, helping those with depression or anxiety or chronic stress understand the connection to sleep, and facilitating the creation of healthier sleep beliefs and behaviors. I know that when I’m sleep deprived I’m grumpy, irrational, and just can’t seem to be nice! I have less energy, I’m less likely to exercise, and I’m not alone.

It is estimated that:

  • 30-35% of adults have at least brief insomnia symptoms (Heffron, 2014).
  • 15-20% are diagnosed with a short-term insomnia disorder, lasting less than three months (Heffron, 2014).
  • 10% are diagnosed with a chronic insomnia disorder, lasting at least three months and occurring at least three nights per week (Heffron, 2014).
  • For many, staying asleep is more of an issue than falling asleep. In one study of 6,781 people with insomnia, only 38% struggled to initiate sleep while 61% had trouble staying asleep. 52% of those with insomnia also reported waking up too early in the morning (Walsh et al., 2011).
  • Without adequate sleep, we’re less likely to exercise. Disrupted sleep is correlated with a decreased desire to exercise and increased pain when exercising (Meney et al, 1998; VanHelder & Radomski, 1989).
  • Conversely, exercise improves quality and duration of sleep (Reid et al., 2010).

 

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Sleep Treatment

It’s estimated that four percent of adults in the U.S. use prescription sleeping pills each month (Heffron, 2014), and while these can be a helpful temporary fix under a doctor’s care, they can also have significant side effects and risks. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is considered an effective treatment for insomnia since it focuses on changing the underlying beliefs related to sleep. The tools of using thought records [click here to learn how] can also be applied to sleep.

Exercise is considered one of the best treatments for sleep in the long run, however. Over time, exercise calms a person’s stress response, and this, in turn, leads to a greater readiness to fall and stay asleep.

 

 

Exercise & Sleep

It has long been recognized that exercise is associated with higher quality sleep in people of all ages (King et al., 1997; Reid et al., 2010). But how, exactly, does this relationship work?

It appears that sleep may actually have a greater impact on exercise than exercise has on sleep, at least at first (Reynolds, 2013). When starting an exercise program, the amount of sleep you’ve had the night before actually influences how long, or if, you’ll exercise the next day. Those who have trouble falling and staying asleep the night before are less likely to exercise the following day, and if they do exercise, they’re more likely to feel pain and fatigue and quit earlier (Baron et al., 2013).

Continued, regular exercise will eventually lead to better quality and duration of sleep, but it may not happen the first night. One study showed it took four months of regular exercise for insomniacs to experience positive changes in sleep (Reid et al., 2010), but don’t let that discourage you. The effects of exercise on your sleep will become obvious over time. It may take a month, or several months, but stick with it and you’ll be sleeping well (Baron et al., 2013). In fact, the benefits of exercise on sleep appear to be as good or better than most sleeping pills and other treatments (Reynolds, 2013), so stick with it!

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Tips for Improved Sleep

  • Make sleep a priority. Too many of us believe it’s okay to live a sleep-deprived life, but hopefully by now you can see this is flawed thinking. Make sleep a top priority in your life, focusing on ways to get to bed on time, to make up for lost sleep, and to let yourself rest when you need it.
  • Sleep seven to nine hours a night, on average. The total recommended sleep time will vary somewhat based on age, health, stress, and other factors, but in general, seven to nine hours is ideal.
  • Sleep debt is a real thing. When you’ve been getting too little sleep, you need to make it up if you want to be well. Taking naps, sleeping in on the weekends, and going to bed a little earlier a few times a week can all help you repay your sleep debt and get back on the healthy track.
  • Practice good sleep hygiene. Adults need bedtime routines just as much as babies and children do. Make your bedroom comfortable, dark, and the right temperature to encourage sleep. Use your bed for sleep only, and refrain from doing mentally stimulating activities in your bedroom like work or even watching TV. Your mind and body need time to calm down and prepare for sleep, so begin your routine an hour before bedtime. Do calming activities, like reading, taking a bath or shower, listening to calming music, or whatever promotes sleep for you.
  • Keep the same bed- and wake-times as much as possible, even on the weekends.
  • Avoid “screen time” close to bedtime. It gets your mind stimulated and can lead to poorer sleep. Turn off the TV, computer, or phone well before bed to let your brain calm down.
  • The more caffeine you consume, the poorer your quality of sleep and exercise will be. On the flip side, the more fatigued you are, the more likely you are to rely on caffeine to “wake up” in the day (National Sleep Foundation, 2009).
  • Exercise at least three hours before bed. This gives the body several hours to regain a cooler temperature, which is associated with better sleep (National Sleep Foundation, 2009).
  • Illness, stress, or even hormones can make you need more sleep, and many people feel sleepier in the winter months, as well. It’s a good thing to get a little extra sleep when your body’s craving it, so indulge!
  • Oversleeping is another sleep issue that is has been linked to increased risk for diabetes, heart disease, headaches, obesity, depression, and even death. If you’re sleeping more than the recommended seven to nine hours per night, on average, consult your physician. She can help you determine what might be contributing to your sleep problems and recommend treatment options (Ratini, 2012).
  • Use relaxation, essential oils, and other rest-promoting tools to improve quantity and quality of sleep. Join my FREE webinar on how essential oils can improve sleep--diffuse lavendar or a restful blend like Serenity at bedtime, in your own room and your childrens’; place a relaxing essential oil on the bottoms of your feet, back of the neck, or on your palms and cup your hands over your nose to inhale the rest-promting aroma. Or try a natural rest-promoting supplement, like Doterra’s Serenity blend, which is taken internally (more on Essential oils on my new “Motherhood Essentials” webpages and webinars). Other relaxation tools, like deep breathing, visualization, and progressive muscle relaxation, will promote healthier sleep when practiced regularly, too.
  • And, of course, exercise regularly to build up a better quality and duration of sleep over time.

 

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Additionally…

If you suffer from insomnia, like so many do, try these suggestions: (redirect to website)

  • If thoughts, worries, and negative emotions flood you when you lie down to sleep, write them down and then “dream” yourself to sleep! Getting the thoughts or worries on paper gets them out of your head, reduces intense emotions, and gives you the chance to leave it ‘til morning and fall asleep easier. Then, instead of thinking of all the “negative” stuff before you fall sleep, focus on the good. Visualize your desires, hopes and vision for the future, and “dream” yourself to sleep. You’ll not only fall asleep smiling, you’ll sleep better and wake happier too!
  • If you can’t relax enough to fall asleep, practice relaxation skills and only go to bed when you’re sleepy. If you’re not sleepy yet, engage in a calm activity (like reading, light housework, etc.) until you’re ready to lie down. Learn relaxation skills like deep breathing, meditation, and visualization, and then practice these skills for 10-30 minutes before bed. Listening to the same soothing music each night is also a good way to condition your body to relax into sleep.
  • If you feel sleepy in the daytime and awake at bedtime, re-program your body to fall asleep on time. Limit caffeine and sugar after about three p.m. Set your alarm to start waking you up earlier. This should help you feel more tired at bedtime. If these aren’t working, your internal “clock” might be off. You can reset your circadian rhythms with light therapy. Sit in direct sunlight (either by a window or outside) in the early morning for 20-60 minutes each day for two weeks. If you don’t live in a sunny place, you can buy a light box for the same effect. Sunlight helps reset your body’s sleep patterns naturally, allowing you to fall asleep earlier and feel more rested in the daytime.
  • If you fall asleep fine, then wake up in the middle of the night and fall asleep, “get up” to get back to sleep.After 15-20 minutes, if you’re unable to sleep, leave your bed and engage in a calm, quiet activity until you feel sleepy enough to try to fall asleep. Repeat as needed. Though it may not happen immediately (or even that same night), you’ll eventually get tired enough to sleep again.
  • If you’re a clock-watcher, lying awake, counting the minutes of sleep you’ve lost and reminding yourself just how tired you’ll be the next day, then turn the clock around and stop telling yourself lies. Watching the clock sets you up for failure, filling your mind with negative thoughts that make sleep even more elusive. Instead, set your alarm before bed, then turn the clock around. If you can’t see it, you’ll be forced to let it go. Stop criticizing yourself for your lack of sleep. Most of what you’re saying is probably not even true–you can’t predict tomorrow, and it certainly won’t help you sleep any better tonight.

This is by no means an exhaustive list of insomnia causes and cures (pun intended), but these suggestions are a great place to start. If, however, you’ve tried these things and nothing seems to help, you may be experiencing a sleep disorder. Talk to your healthcare provider, who can refer you to a sleep specialist.

 

 

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It’s an exciting day, friends! A day when I get to share with you something I’ve been passionate about for years–something that has empowered me as a mother and expanded my family’s health, wellness and happiness: essential oils.

Okay, I know what you’re thinking:

“Essential oils? That’s what you’re so passionate about? Are you serious?” Yes. I am.

Believe me, I once felt like many of you–skeptical, to say the least. “How could a little bottle of plant extract actually do anything for me? Isn’t it all just a placebo effect?”

Now, after years of experimenting with essential oils, studying the research, and finding my own results time and again, I can tell you: “They DO work, and not just a placebo.”

 

 

The Power of Essential Oils: My Firsthand Experiences

One week post-concussion.

One week post-concussion.

I was first introduced to essential oils several years ago, while visiting a friend who was recovering from a broken femur (ouch!). This friend had been a go-to for me before for natural solutions to family health issues (like using vapor rub and apple cider vinegar on chest and bottoms of the feet for croup–and trust me, it works!). This friend had another friend who was a master of such things, and was happy to pass on everything she learned. Now, with a very painful broken leg, my friend had turned to her friend and her friend had introduced her to essential oils, to which she introduced me (have I sufficiently confused you yet?).

 

The point is, she became hooked on essential oils because of the real-life results she was experiencing as the oils soothed, comforted and supported the healing of her broken leg. As she told me of these results, I was intrigued. Then, when she told me how essential oils were supporting her children’s health during cold and flu season, I was sold (she has 7 kids!). I ordered my first essential oils from doTERRA–lemon, peppermint, and On Guard, a blend protective blend that protects against environmental and seasonal threats and supports a healthy immune system, and started using them with my own family.

 

I, too, became hooked. The more I used the oils, the more benefits I saw, not only for myself, but for my entire family. Having these oils on hand–even just the few I started with–gave me something I desperately craved as a mother when it came to my family’s health and wellness: options. Since then, I’ve grown in my understanding of how to use essential oils, and in the results they have offered. My kids started asking me, “Mom can you make me a ‘cocktail’ (as we call it)? I’m starting to feel like I’m getting a cold.” To this day I make these “cocktails” for the kids, which now include oregano, lemon, peppermint, and On Guard. Even my college-aged son recently stopped by to get a “cold cocktail” from mom before heading on a trip out of town, to combat his scratchy throat and sniffles. I love that my children feel empowered through essential oils, too.

 

My post-concussion armory. Earplugs, to help me sleep, water, sunglasses to block light, acetominaphin for the pain, and an army of essential oils to calm, soothe, and comfort my bruising, aching, swelling, and distress.

My post-concussion armory. Earplugs, to help me sleep, water, sunglasses to block light, acetaminophen for the pain, and an army of essential oils to calm, soothe, and comfort my bruising, aching, swelling, and distress.

I starting using essential oils like lavender to relax at night and help my kids and I sleep better, and now, lavender is always with me–it’s great for relieving itchy bug bites, calming nerves, and a host of other things. I diffuse my favorite uplifting blend, Elevation, to lift our family’s mood during the day, and I diffuse Serenity to help us calm down at night. I use doTERRA‘s Balance blend every day to bring more balance to my moods, and I love the Clary Calm blend and phytoestrogen supplement when hormones are wreaking havoc on me. In fact, I now start each day with a health shake that includes doTERRA’s Terra Greens “green drink” mix, and take the lifelong vitality pack of nutritional supplements/vitamins, including important omega-3’s (which actually improve mental health as well as physical).

 

In times of distress, I’ve also learned to turn to essential oils.

I used essential oils after a car accident I was in two years ago, especially doTERRA‘s Deep Blue soothing blend to combat the pain and discomfort of whiplash and for the lasting tightness in my shoulders and neck.

A few months ago, I suffered a mild traumatic brain injury after a concussion. Essential oils to the rescue! I employed an arsenal of oils to to help with the bruising, swelling, muscle pain, anxiety, stress, and headaches–still do.

And just a couple months ago, my daughter was stung by a bee just as we were leaving the funeral of yet another loved one, and within 30 minutes, a blend of spikenard and petitgrain essential oils had not only stopped her pain and misery; she excitedly showed me she could no longer see where the sting had even been!

Yes, essential oils work, and as a mother I love having these incredible options in my family health and wellness toolbox.

 

 

A Valuable Addition to your Family Health & Wellness “Toolbox”

That’s what family health and wellness are all about, right? Options. Having the tools in our physical and emotional health “toolbox” to turn to in times of need empowers us. These tools should include things like proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise; a willingness to examine our emotional health and wellness, to seek support and talk about these things. At times, outside help is part of our toolbox, including psychotherapy, faith counseling, doctor visits, and yes, medications. But is that all? No. At least, it doesn’t have to be.

 

Essential oils are an incredible addition to our family physical and emotional health and wellness toolbox. They’re not THE answer; they’re AN answer, an important one that can empower us as mothers, parents, and individuals with the options we need to increase our family’s physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual health and to help the entire family “overcome, become, and flourish!”

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That’s why I’m thrilled to share with you my newest venture: “Motherhood Essentials!” including FREE Webinars & Giveaway!

Enter “Motherhood Essentials“–my new essential oils education, inspiration, empowerment, and leadership team!

I am partnering with doTERRA to bring their high quality essential oils to you–to help you learn how to use essential oils so you can experience the incredible benefits for your family.

I’m even more excited to provide opportunities for you to work directly with me to share these incredible products, support, and free eduction with others, all while fulfilling your own dreams and goals–personally and financially!

I can’t explain why it’s taken me so long to reach out and share the education, research, and “how-to’s” of essential oils I’ve learned, loved, and used so often, with all of you. I did write a blog post on essential oils sharing my favorite health and wellness benefits for families several months ago, but it wasn’t until recently that I decided to make this a whole new venture.

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My Motherhood Essentials “Why”…

I’ve asked myself many times, “Why am I doing this?” I’ve long preached about the importance of having a strong “why,” and after months of thought, prayer, and pondering, that’s exactly what I have–a powerful “why.”

 

I chose to create “Motherhood Essentials” for this simple reason: I love essential oils, and I love sharing and teaching about them. As an individual and parent, I use them everyday. As a psychologist, I’ve come to appreciate not only the physical health benefits of essential oils we so often hear about, but also some more surprising benefits–like benefits to emotional health, sleep, hormones, in pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond (join my FREE webinar series on this!). I am passionate about educating as many people as I can so they can reap these benefits, too.

 

Yes, I created “Motherhood Essentials” because I believe in doTERRA essential oils, because I want to share them with all of you, and because this blends perfectly into the work I have already been doing for years–offering education, inspiration, and showing as many people as I can how to “overcome, become, and flourish!” Essential oils is just one more way to do this.

 

 Learn more about the surprising benefits of essential oils for emotional health, sleep, hormones, and pregnancy/postpartum in this episode of Motherhood TV!

 

 

Why doTERRA essential oils?

1) “Quality matters, folks!” That’s what Dr. Nicole Parish, top researcher at Johns Hopkins University, stated at the doTERRA One convention a couple months ago [1], as sheEssential Oils-Why Quality Matters www.DrChristinaHibbert.com www.MotherhoodEssential.com shared fascinating new research on the remarkable ways essential oils can work. doTERRA is tops when it comes to quality. (Learn more about why quality matters here).

 

2) They’re safe for the whole family. Because doTERRA oils are such high quality, they are a safe alternative or addition to other preventatitve and treatment options and can be used for the whole family, when used in the prescribed ways. (Learn more about how to use essential oils here.)

 

3) They work. Period. And in more ways than you’d guess! Dr. Parish’s research is even finding that the same oils can work in different ways for different organisms. This means How do I use essential oils? www.DrChristinaHibbert.com www.MotherhoodEssential.comthe health and wellness potential for essential oils is endless! In fact, Dr. Parish’s latest research is finding that essential oils have “some of the most powerful antimicrobial compounds in existence, and with further testing and research, they could lead to a whole new class of medications.”[2] In fact, new research is looking into essential oils as a new alternative to antibiotics. “Various oils have also been shown to effectively treat a wide range of common health issues such as nausea and migraines, and a rapidly growing body of research is finding that they are powerful enough to kill human cancer cells of the breast, colon, mouth, skin, and more.”[3]

 

4) They empower parents. Yes, these little bottles of essential oils empower us. Or, they have the potential to, if we allow them. Like I did, you too can just give them a try. Add lemon to your water for flavor and detoxification benefits. Add lavender to a hot bath for a relaxing soak and more restful sleep. Diffuse emotional aromatherapy oils in your home What are Essential Oils? "Motherhood Essentials" www.DrChristinaHibbert.com www.MotherhoodEssential.comfor a more peaceful environment. Or, try some of the exciting new doTERRA products, like Serenity sleep-promoting softgels or the Onguard blend I love so much. The point is, with essential oils in our toolkit, we have more options to turn to when we need them. And that is empowering.

 

5) doTERRA is a stand-up company. I had the opportunity to attend my first doTERRA convention a couple months ago, and I was blown away. Not only by the research, presentations, and quality of the entire convention, but even more so by the quality of the doTERRA company. Here are just a few facts about doTERRA:

  • doTERRA gives back–The thing I am most impressed about with doTERRA is how it serves so many around the world. doTERRA’s Healing Hands Foundation, partners "Motherhood Essentials" Home Page w/Dr. Christina Hibbert www.DrChristinaHibbert.com www.MotherhoodEssential.comwith wellness advocates like me to serve and provide financial support to needy communities around the globe. They were the first on the scene to help rebuild Napal after the devastating earthquakes of 2015, building the first new structures and schools, donating hundreds of thousands of dollars for relief efforts, and providing over 2,000 new jobs for families there. But this is just one of the ways doTERRA is making a global impact. They are involved in countless projects and efforts around the globe, in addition to providing jobs through sourcing facilities and contracts, and are also a part of Days for Girls, a non-profit that empowers young women and girls discover their potential and build self-worth through ensuring quality feminine hygiene products are available. I love what doTERRA is doing to serve. I am proud to be a part of this company.
  • doTERRA is a science and research– based company. doTERRA is also transparent in their testing of each bottle of essential oil and has even created a website where you can search the lot number of your bottle of oil and see the farmers, growers and GCMS report.
  • doTERRA sources their quality essential oils all over the world. With over 100 essential oils in its product line, doTERRA sources its oils from over 40 countries —more than half of which could be considered developing countries. To ensure that small scale farmers and harvesters in disadvantaged areas are treated ethically, dōTERRA has introduced an initiative called Cō-Impact Sourcing. It is remarkable how doTERRA has created a global network that empowers growers, developers, harvesters, and advocates around the world!

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1) Educate. The research and education on essential oils is solid, and it’s growing every day. I’m all about education. I love helping others learn, grow, and discover new ways to help themselves and their families. That’s why I’ve already set up my new “Motherhood Essentials” Webinar Series! In this FREE, online series, you can learn more about essential oils and how to use them for family emotional health, better sleep, to manage hormones and women’s health issues, in pregnancy and postpartum, and beyond. Join me and register for this incredible FREE series today! You can also join me for educational classes, posts and discussions by joining my Motherhood Essentials Facebook group, following me and our Motherhood Essentials posts on Instagram . I can’t wait to teach you how to USE these fabulous tools!

 

2) Share. I want to share these oils with you–to help you learn how to use them for greater health and wellness in your life. I also want to help you share these oils with others. You can join me for mentoring, leadership training, education, and other powerful skills by working with me; or, if you’re not ready to work with me, you can join our team in other ways!

 

3) Expand and grow. I only take on new projects when I believe they’re essential (pun intended) to my own personal growth and development, and my family’s. I truly believe "Motherhood Essentials" w/Dr. Christina Hibbert www.DrchristinaHibbert.com www.MotherhoodEssential.comsharing and educating folks on doTERRA essential oils is part of my personal growth mission, and if it’s part of yours, too, then I want to help you expand your horizons and grow with me, as well.

 

 4) Work with you! Even more exciting, I am also building a “Motherhood Essentials” Leadership Team, and I want you to join me! Whether you’re looking for your next adventure, wanting something new, or looking to educate and inspire others in health and wellness; whether you’re looking to supplement or even replace your income while you learn, grow, and work with me, then I am looking for you! That’s the exciting thing about this leadership team–it means I get to work directly with go-getters like many of you who are passionate about family health and wellness, too. Together, we can share essential oils, provide rockin,’ free education, inspire others on the “how-to’s” of essential oil use, and empower moms, dads, and families to fulfill their health and wellness, and even financial, goals and dreams! If you’re ready for this, then join me! Click here to learn more and to apply.

 

 

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That about sums it up…

I hope you feel inspired to get started with essential oils, and I really hope that if you are inspired, you’ll register for my FREE webinar series today.

The most important thing you can do is at least give essential oils a try. If you love them, then you’ll have some incredible new tools in that toolbox we talked about. If not, well, at How Do I Get Started with Essential Oils? www.DrChristinaHibbert.com www.MotherhoodEssentials.comleast you’ll know. Learn more about what essential oils really are, why quality matters, how to use essential oils, and how to get started by clicking one of these links. Then, join my Facebook group and follow our Instagram account and check out our posts. And, just see what you think.

I hope you’ll choose to try essential oils out, to give yourself, and your family, the option of essential oils. And I hope you will choose to do so with me.

Here’s to an exciting “Motherhood Essentials” Team adventure!

 

 

 

 

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[1] doTERRA One Convention. (Sept. 15, 2016, Salt Lake City, UT). Live address by Dr. Nicole Parish.

[2] The Alternative Daily. “Essential Oils vs. Antibiotics.” http://www.thealternativedaily.com/essential-oils-vs-antibiotics/

[3] The Atlantic. (Jan 16, 2015). “Essential Oils Might Be The New Antibiotics.” http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/the-new-antibiotics-might-be-essential-oils/384247/

Creating a Healthy Lifestyle- Exercise, Play, Work, Support & Spirituality (8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise bonus chapter, part 1)

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It’s been far too long since I last posted, and even if it’s been for good reasons (like recovering from a concussion while managing a book tour, back-to-school, family, and work), I’m ready to be back!

To start back with a bang, I’m sharing a full bonus chapter from my recently released 3rd book, 8 Keys to Mental Health Through ExerciseAll about how to create a healthy lifestyle, this chapter was not included in the final edition of the book. You can only get it here!

 Part 1 discusses “other factors” that can influence health, happiness, and even whether or not you exercise–things like work, play, support, and spiritual connection. Part 2 will focus on the important interplay between exercise and sleep, and part 3 is all about nutrition and exercise for a long, healthy, happy life.

I hope this bonus chapter inspires you to make some healthy, happy, lifestyle choices today!

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Creating a Healthy Lifestyle

(8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise, bonus chapter, Part 1)

A healthy lifestyle isn’t about any one factor. It’s about one’s entire package of habits, behaviors, thoughts, and coping techniques. The beautiful part is we can always work to improve our lifestyle. We can work to change habits, alter behaviors, and incorporate new strategies and tools to help us overcome, become, and flourish.

Of course, one of the best things we can do for a healthy and happy life is to exercise, and when I say, “exercise” what I really mean is to move your body–to be active, on a regular basis. Exercise is key to our overall physical and mental health wellbeing. [You can learn more about exercise for mental health, and for lifelong wellness, in 8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise, and in the posts, below.]

While we’ve certainly determined that exercise isn’t just about losing weight, getting in shape, or even just about physical health, it’s also clear that exercise is more effective when supported by a healthy lifestyle. You can run and swim and do yoga every day, but if you’re not sleeping, eating right, if you’re running on caffeine and adrenaline and never finding down time, then all that exercise won’t make much difference to your mental health. Your body will be so stressed it will counteract many of the benefits of exercise.

For some, “healthy lifestyle” means cutting out fast food, seeking to reduce stress, and stretching every day. For others, it means cutting out gluten, dairy, and sugar, meditating, and running ten miles a week. There is no one way to be healthy. However, one thing is clear: Only you can create a healthier lifestyle. Sure, friends, family, doctors, or others might encourage, inspire, help, or show you how to change your lifestyle, but ultimately it’s you who decides to do it.

 

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When I say, “create a healthy lifestyle,” what I’m really asking you to do is to create a healthier lifestyle. Whatever your current way of eating,

sleeping, working, or playing, there is room to grow. Most of us have one or two areas that could use a little improvement, and many of us have several. The point isn’t to go out and immediately change your diet, exercise, sleep, work, play, relationships, and so on. It’s to start with one area, and when you feel “healthier,” then move on to another. And so on, until you’re where you want to be.

There are three main components of a healthy lifestyle, which work together to create overall health. These are 1) sleep, 2) nutrition, and 3) exercise. I have long said that we need these three things in order to have energy to meet the physical, mental, and emotional demands of life, and experts universally hail exercise, nutrition, and sleep as the primary foundation of overall health (Hirshkowitz, 2013). Each of these three things creates energy for the body and mind, and without these, we simply can’t experience all the benefits a healthy lifestyle can offer.

(We will examine each of these three in more depth in parts 2, 3, and 4 of this excerpted chapter series)

 

 

Other Keys to a Healthy Lifestyle

While sleep, nutrition, and exercise form the foundation of a healthy lifestyle and greater mental and physical health, they’re not the only lifestyle choices that impact and are impacted by exercise. Family, relationships, work, play, downtime, stillness, and spiritual connection all play a role in exercise success and mental health, too. Let’s take a look.

 

Support System

            We need support to stick with exercise, and if we don’t have it from our current friends or family, we need to seek it from other sources. Parenting Skills: 4 Ways We Learn to Parent, & The Good News about our Parenting Potential; www.DrChristinaHibbert.comThose with families who have negative beliefs or behaviors related to exercise tend to struggle more with diet and exercise self-care themselves (Wen, Shepherd, & Parchman, 2004). While overall family support is important, it’s the spouse/partner who actually seems to be the most influential (Allen & Morey, 2010). If you are struggling to get support from your spouse, don’t give up. Seek social support in other ways, and keep striving to help your partner understand why you won’t give exercise up.

Having friends who not only support you but engage in exercise with you can also make a big difference in sticking with it. Regular exercise is conversely associated with greater social satisfaction, especially for those participating in group exercise. Feeling like “part of a group” leads to greater self-confidence and self-efficacy, and decreases loneliness in later life. There are two ways social support affects exercise engagement and adherence: 1) Exercising with the support of friends/family increases your perceived level of control over your behavior and life, which increases exercise intentions, which leads to greater exercise adherence, and 2) Group cohesion improves exercise attitude, which increases exercise intentions and thus exercise adherence (Courneya & McAuley, 1995).

Nan struggled with exercise, and with her weight, her whole life. She’d tried walking, jogging, running, and swimming like her sisters had enjoyed doing, but just couldn’t stick with any of them. She felt isolated; even though she had sisters who exercised regularly, they preferred doing so alone and Nan wasn’t sure what to do. Until she discovered Zumba. Not only was Zumba fun and engaging, it kept her mind off the fact that she was “exercising.” Zumba also provided build-in social support. The friends she made in her class became part of her daily life, and so did Zumba. She has lost 50 pounds, is eating much healthier, and mostly, she reports far greater self-confidence, energy, and love, knowing that she is not alone.

Join a group fitness class; sign up for a group race; if you belong to a gym, be friendly and engage with those around you; make friends with those who are obviously believers in exercise, too, and you’ll feel healthier and happier.

 

Work

This is me, on our family vacation in 2013, finishing my second book proposal, due that day, while my 10 year-old daughter drove the boat (in my husband's lap) back to the dock so I could email it out! Talk about too busy.

This is me, on our family vacation in 2013, finishing my second book proposal, due that day, while my 10 year-old daughter drove the boat (in my husband’s lap) back to the dock so I could email it out! Talk about too busy.

Work is often quoted as a major reason people don’t exercise. “I’m too busy.” “Work is too stressful.” “When I get home, I only have time for my family.” It’s certainly difficult to balance work, home, and family.

There is a high correlation between stressful work environment and increased stress, depression, and even heart disease. Work stress can also affect other factors like sleep, nutrition, exercise, and physical and mental health, and work environments that are more stressful experience a lower level of work productivity from their employees (Karacek, 1992). Jobs that promote greater autonomy, learning, and physical activity are much “healthier” and linked with greater exercise adherence than those that are highly stressful with low decision-making ability and new learning opportunities.

For many, the work-home balance is a huge factor in the level of perceived life stress, and consequently, in how much you exercise. However, research also shows that exercise may be just what you need. In fact, studies show a clear relationship between exercise and one’s ability to manage work and home. Intuitively, it seems that exercising presents just one more “thing to do” when time is already scarce, and this is precisely why so many parents and working professionals drop it. Yet, because exercise reduces stress, it provides a release that enables greater family interaction and work productivity. As one researcher put it, “A reduction in stress is tantamount to an expansion of time” (Clayton, 2014).

Regular exercise also increases self-efficacy. Self-efficacy is the belief that we can handle challenges effectively, and this appears to carry over into our home and work roles (Clayton, 2014). Work is important to life—yes, to make a living, to support a family, but also because meaningful work is associated with greater mental health and flourishing. Exercise is key to less stressful, meaningful work, since it reduces stress and increases self-efficacy (Clayton, 2013). People who exercise regularly report better work performance and confidence from exercise.

Some ways to improve exercise adherence on workdays include:

  • Seek to exercise early in the workday, or even before work. It’s too easy to find reasons not to exercise later in the day.
  • Bring your walking shoes and use your lunch break to take a brisk walk or jog.
  • If you work in a large building, take the stairs. Adding stairs to your every day routine will boost your energy level and increase your total exercise time.
  • Take a yoga or Pilates class, or do it at home in the morning or before bed. Yoga and Pilates are not only great, safe workouts, they’re great stress-relievers.
  • Encourage your workplace to embrace new habits, like walking meetings or “booster breaks,” where you can take 10-15 minutes to breathe, stretch, and do light aerobic exercise throughout the day. It will actually boost employee confidence and productivity—a win-win (Clayton, 2014).

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Down Time & Play

When we think of play and “down time,” most of us probably think of children. Play is crucial to children’s development, but unfortunately, playtime has significantly decreased in the past decades. Researchers believe this is one of the reasons why childhood & adolescent mental illness has been on the rise. Five to eight times as many high school and college students are diagnosed with an anxiety or depressive disorder today, compared to fifty years ago (Gray, 2010).

But children and adolescents aren’t the only ones who need play and down time. Studies show adults need it just as much. Many adults have no clue how to relax, have a little fun, and “play;” they think it’s not something “adults do,” or that they’ll be a “slacker” if they let loose.

Researcher Stuart Brown, MD, has described play as spending time without purpose, and states that play is not only important, it’s essential to human brain development, creativity, intelligence, innovation, mental health, and happiness (Brown, 2008). “The opposite of play is not work; it’s depression,” he says, making a strong case for keeping play part of our adult lives.

Play involves any activity that helps you let go, relax, have fun, and give your brain a break for a while. This can include physical activities, like gardening, playing golf or tennis, or even scuba-diving going for a hike or more relaxing activities, like reading, napping, or lying on the grass looking for shapes in the sky with your child. The point is to engage in activities that disengage your brain and give you a break from your regular routine. When we make time for downtime and play, we are much more likely to feel mentally and physically strong and happy.

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Stillness & Spirituality

Along with downtime and play, we need stillness and “un-plugging.” We’re constantly connected—through the Internet, smartphones, satellite TV, laptops, and tablets. It’s more common to wake up and check Facebook or email than it is for people to wake up and watch the sunrise. Yet, all that connection is preventing real, deep connection—connection with family, friends, and faith—spiritual connection.

Spiritual connection underlies emotional, mental and physical health. Caring for body, mind, and spirit is linked with faster healing, greater longevity, and better overall wellness. It is suggested that physicians should recommend spiritual practices for patients, and that those who fail to do so are doing a great disservice to their patients (Koepke, n.d.).

Spiritual connection keeps us mindful of life, meaning, and purpose, no matter how we choose to practice it. Connecting every day through prayer, meditation, scripture study, pondering, stillness, nature, church, and whatever else brings you a greater sense of spirituality will increase your desire and motivation for exercise. As you quiet your mind, feel your soul, and remember you’re more than your body, you’ll want to care for all of yourself more fully, because you’ll know how important a healthy body and mind are to increased spiritual growth.

Exercise can also serve as a form of spiritual discipline. It can help you feel God’s love and appreciate your body more. It can also provide mental clarity to increase spiritual connection. I always say a prayer of gratitude as I begin my daily walk or jog, and exercise has become a sacred experience for me—one in which I can feel open, healthy, happy, and inspired. Some researchers have even suggested that caring for our physical body through exercise is a powerful way to experience the Divine, as we care for “God’s creation,” and work to flourish (Greenwood & Delgado, 2013).

 

Watch for Parts 2 and 3, all about Sleep & Nutrition–coming soon!

 

 

My new book, available on Amazon.com!

 “8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise“ is here!

“…Enlightening and empowering…” ~Publisher’s Weekly

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Join me for The Adventure of a Lifetime- ReDiscover Yourself at Zion Ponderosa Women’s Retreat

I love to travel, always have. I love seeing new places, meeting new people, getting out of my routine and trying something new. But it wasn’t until recently that I realized I don’t just love to travel; I love adventure.

I love exploring, getting out of my comfort zone, and pushing myself. I love seeing what I can do. That may involve jumping off a waterfall or pushing my social comfort zone, but either way, adventure is the perfect way to discover who we truly are.

Having a "moment" at Observation Point, above Zion National Park, at the Women's Adventure Retreat. Ah-mazing!

Having a “moment” at Observation Point, above Zion National Park, at the Women’s Adventure Retreat. Ah-mazing!

 

The Adventure of a Lifetime– Zion Ponderosa Women’s Adventure Retreat

A couple months ago, I had the opportunity to experience the Zion Ponderosa Ranch Resort Women’s Adventure Retreat, and what an adventure it was!

I showed up on my own, met up with 10 other women from around the country (staying in luxury cabins, with our own suites, I might add), and engaged in a packed schedule of activities each day, including hiking, sand-sledding, zip-lining, horseback riding, ATV riding, canyoneering, and even a helicopter ride, to name a few.

Of course, it was fun to be in a gorgeous place like Zion National Park and do these activities with other amazing women; of course, it was inspiring to see the grand scenery and experience nature in such a vibrant way; but as stunning and fun as the adventure was, the thing that stood out most for me was what I learned about myself along the way. 

Now, I want to share that adventure with you. First, here in this blog post, with some things I’ve learned and ways you can also experience the adventure of a lifetime and discover who you are. Then, with an exciting invitation to experience the Zion Ponderosa Women’s Retreat with me (see below)!

 

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Our fabulous adventure retreat group, outside the entrance to Zion Ponderosa. Beautiful!

Our fabulous adventure retreat group, outside the entrance to Zion Ponderosa. Beautiful!

 

What can travel and adventure do for you?

Traveling, and even seeking adventure at home, can help you…

1)Learn about yourself. Strengths. Weaknesses. We all have them, and adventure will surely bring them out. At the retreat, my physical strengths came through. I was able to do more, physically, than I thought I could. At the same time, my social weaknesses became readily apparent. Though I could socialize and wanted to get to know everyone, my introvert kicked in and I craved alone time in my beautiful room. I started to understand how I could be misinterpreted as antisocial if I wasn’t careful. It made me have to work on this weakness, while also using my strengths to help others.

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Hiking Angel’s Landing. What an amazing hike! Tough, but so worth the view from the top! Part of our group did this hike, and the other part did another gorgeous hike. Meeting everyone’s adventure needs at Zion Ponderosa Women’s Retreat!

2) Push yourself. Adventure allows you to test your limits and learn you can do and be more than you once dreamed. It pushes you out of your comfort zone, paving the way for new experiences and ultimately, for growth. I zip-lined upside-down! I also repelled (once upside-down, too–long story, but you can see it in this short video)! I’m not great with heights, so I really had to push myself with the repelling, and it felt terrific to see myself finally get it right and enjoy the process.

Yep, that's me! I didn't plan to be upside down; I just sort of went for it! Oh, what a crazy, fun day.

Yep, that’s me, zip-lining at the Zion Ponderosa Adventure Retreat! I didn’t plan to be upside down; I just sort of went for it! Who knew I was so daring?

3) Get you out of your “box.” Adventure is really about trying something new–whether that be a place, an experience, or new people. Yes, it can be uncomfortable at first to try something new, but getting out of your box is one of the surest ways to grow. And we all want greater personal growth, don’t we? I sure do.

With some of my new friends, in our ATV gear, jumping, in the mud, beside of a beautiful ravine. Now that's getting out of my "box!"

With some of my new friends, in our ATV gear, jumping, in the mud, beside of a beautiful ravine. Now that’s getting out of my “box!”

4) Keep you growing through all “seasons.” I often write about overcoming–about growing through the hard times–but we can grow just as much in life’s “summers” as we can in life’s “winters,” if we are willing to stretch our self-imposed boundaries and explore coloring outside the lines a bit. At the Zion Ponderosa retreat, I was able to grow socially, physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually, and you can do the same through your own adventures.

Socially, we can make new friends and see how and who we are with new people. We can learn so much by seeing how we interact with different personalities and social situations.

Our Zion Ponderosa canyoneering group, having a blast bonding through facing our fears!

Our Zion Ponderosa canyoneering group, having a blast bonding through facing our fears!

Physically, we can try new activities and enjoy the benefits of moving our body, too. We had women of all ages and activity levels on the retreat, and everyone pushed themselves physically in one way or another. It was beautiful to see how we could each reach our potential, and help each other along the way.

Pushing my limits for sure-repelling down a gorgeous canyon with the Zion Ponderosa Women's Retreat!

Pushing my limits for sure-repelling down a gorgeous canyon with the Zion Ponderosa Women’s Retreat!

Mentally/emotionally, we can learn new skills, which strengthens our brain and emotional capacity. We can also tackle fears and challenges, like worry, in a safe and supportive setting. One of the best things from the Zion Retreat was the companionship and support we offered one another. As we feel the support of others, we are able to safely stretch our mind and emotions. We can release what we’ve been holding, and we can heal. I know many of us on the retreat experienced this incredible benefit.

Success! Post-canyoneering trip pic with our fabulous group from Zion Ponderosa Retreat.

Success! Post-canyoneering trip pic with our fabulous group from Zion Ponderosa Women’s Retreat.

 

Spiritually, we can re-connect with our true self and build self-worth. This was the most consistent praise I heard from the other participants about the adventure retreat. Yes, we all had a blast, but even more, each of us reconnected with herself. Each of us took away a deeper spiritual connection in some way. For me, I was not only able to realize new insights about myself, but I reconnected with God, with nature, and the Divine. I truly felt myself “wake up.”

Taking in the wonder of Zion National Park. One of my favorite moments from the Women's Adventure Retreat.

Taking in the wonder of Zion National Park. One of my favorite moments from the Women’s Adventure Retreat.

 

5) Awaken yourself to what’s true in you, in others, and in your Higher Power. When you experience adventure, you have an opportunity–the to awaken to yourself, to others, and to the bigger picture of life. When we take this opportunity, we feel refreshed, recharged, and ready to return home and take on whatever adventure may be coming our way next!

 

 

 

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Participating in the life-changing Zion Ponderosa Women’s Adventure Retreat inspired me to want to do more–to help others experience what I did, but in an even deeper way. And after discussing with the Women’s Adventure Retreat director (and now my dear friend), Mandy Woodhouse, we’ve come up with an exciting new offer!

If you’re looking for the adventure of a lifetime, then email Mandy and join us for a 5-day retreat in the majestic Zion National Park, including adventure activities like those I mentioned above (hiking in Zion, canyoneering, zip-lining, etc), AND personal daily workshops with me!

 

Yes, I’ll be there with you through it all, sharing my best tools and inspiration to help you open up, rediscover yourself, and return home recharged and ready to reach your true, full potential!

And if you mention my name and this special offer, you will receive $100 off this already discounted rate for the week!

Of course, you can also register for one of the already-scheduled Women’s Adventure Retreats, too, and receive the discount if you mention I sent you. With or without me, I highly recommend it!

 

For more details, please email Mandy Woodhouse at Mandy@ZionPonderosa.com. Let her know I sent you, and tell her you’d like more details. She will fill you in on all the incredible activities and accommodations, and can offer details on price ranges and possible dates.

Once we get a few interested participants, we will set the date (so everyone can make it), and space is very limited, so don’t wait! I’d love to experience the adventure of a lifetime with you!

 

Watch this short video of my Zion Ponderosa Retreat canyoneering experience!

 

 

 

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