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I also know that you can not only overcome whatever life brings your way–you can become and even flourish! As a wise person once said, “Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely” (Karen Kaiser Clark). Join me and my community and choose to grow and become–a better woman, a better parent, a better child, a better family, a better you.
“The Psychologist, The Mom, & Me” Blog:
The Psychologist in me shares principles and tools to make life easier and more fulfilling.
The Mom writes about the ups and downs of family, marriage, life, and staying sane trying to raising 6 kids!
And Me? I’m just trying to be a little bit better each day, and I hope to help you do the same.
Thought Management, Part 2: How to Change Your Thinking (& Your Life!) Using a Thought Record [plus video]
ShareIn Thought Management, Part 1, we learned about the connection between thoughts, feelings, the body, and behavior. We learned about the thousands of automatic thoughts that run through our minds each day, and how one little, unnoticed thought can lead to a whole lot of trouble if we do nothing about it. (If you haven’t read it yet, I suggest you do!). In Part 2, we shift our focus to what we can do about our thoughts, using a little tool I love, called a “thought record”. One of the Best Tools for Thought...read more
ShareFirst, I want to thank all who have joined the discussion on self-esteem and self-worth. You’ve had a lot to say, and I still do too! I’ve received several questions over the past couple of weeks, so, to ensure we’re all on the same page before we move on, today’s post is a Q & A. If you haven’t read the first two posts, “5 Reasons Self-Esteem is a Myth,” and “If Self-Esteem is a Myth, then what is the Truth?: Understanding Self-Worth,” I suggest you do. And be sure to watch my “Self-Esteem vs. Self-Worth:...read more
Share“If Self-Esteem is a Myth, then what is the Truth?”: Understanding Self-Worth I appreciate the feedback I’ve received on my article, “5 Reasons Self-Esteem is a Myth”. Some of you were excited about the insights I shared; some weren’t so sure. If you haven’t read it yet, I suggest you give it a look. In this post, I hope to build upon those ideas, to help us understand a little better why self-esteem isn’t the way to go & why “self-worth” is. Self-Esteem vs. Self-Worth “Aren’t Self-Esteem &...read more
Share5 Reasons “Self-Esteem” is a Myth For years, I have noticed that almost everyone who walks through my private practice door is really dealing with the same core issue: poor “self-esteem”. Whether struggling through depression, anxiety, addiction, relationship issues, parenting challenges, or even life stress, when we get to the core of the issue, it almost always has to do with some false feeling or belief about oneself. This has had me wondering: “Why is it so hard to feel “self-esteem?” After all, it’s a...read more
Share“She doesn’t understand my needs at all!” “If he really loved me, he would show it!” “We’re living like roommates now–the spark is completely gone.” As a Clinical Psychologist, I hear these complaints all the time. Couples who don’t understand each other, couples who don’t feel loved, couples who fear they’re beyond repair. And I get it–maintaining strong relationships is one of the toughest parts of life. But, to the couples who have small struggles, to those...read more
ShareFrom “Love” to Loving: 50 Ways to Love your Loved Ones “I love you”–it’s perhaps the most important concept of all time, and yet it’s one of the most taken for granted. We feel love, we say we love, but are we truly loving the ones we love? Despite what the dictionaries say, in my book, loving is a verb—an action—something we do. When I am loving you, I am showing you how I feel and not just feeling it. Loving moves “love” from an abstract concept into a dynamic experience, creating...read more
ShareThe 3 Steps of Creating “When you are in the orientation of the creative, life is often interesting, exciting, and special. This is not because creators try to be interested in whatever they are doing, but because they are involved in life on a level where there is always the possibility of something new and wonderful happening that has never existed before.” Does this sound like what you want—to enjoy the “possibility of something new and wonderful happening that has never existed before?” It sure sounds good to me,...read more
ShareLet’s Get Real: 10 Confessions from “The Psychologist, The Mom, & Me” It’s time to get real: I’ve been in a bit of a “funk” the past few days. It happens more often than I’d like—I’m sailing along, the “do-it-all-mom” one minute, and bursting into tears, collapsing onto my bed the next. My husband gently reminds me, “This is just how you are, dear. You have a meltdown and then you get better.” And he’s right. I do have meltdowns, and I do get better. But last night, not feeling “better” yet, I...read more
ShareAs I remind myself all the time, there are no problems in life: only situations. It is our perception that turns a situation into a problem. That being said, we all have many “situations” in our lives we would like to change or wish were different. Over-scheduled, uncertain, overdoing it, under-rested, overly frustrated, under-appreciated, over-it-all, under the covers—whatever your situation may be, you have the power to choose your perception and to create the change that is needed in your life. The Power to Choose Too...read more
ShareBeyond Resolutions: Discovering Your New Year’s Vision My New Year’s Vision “A few years back, tired of ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ and needing an entirely new approach, I developed the idea of a ‘yearly theme’. What I really wanted was to move away from the small, too-often forgotten goals of New Year’s resolutions toward a more meaningful practice of personal development. Having a yearly theme would serve as my one resolution for the entire year and give me focused, extended practice in...read more